Welcome to Overcoming Problems in Your Marital Life

The problems marital life brings are often quite surprising for couples - after all, no one thinks on their wedding day that their married life will be fraught with issues.

However, if you're reading this page, you know better. Sometimes, it's the big issues - loss of a job, bankruptcy, illness, etc. - that drag a marriage down. Mor often, though, it's a culmination of smaller issues that build to the point when one partner is ready to give up.


You know what I mean - he forgot to take out the trash; she didn't have time to make dinner; he snores at night; she leaves her wet towels laying on the bathroom floor. By themselves, these issues aren't a big deal - but over time, little issues can turn into a great big problem!

The first thing to remember is why the two of you got together in the first place. There is a reason for your marriage (well, many reasons, really), and your relationship is bigger than the problems marital life throws your way. It's important that you get back to the fundamentals of your marriage... this gives you a good base for starting over (and building a marriage that's stronger than ever!)

Think about your answers to these questions:

• What initially attracted you to him or her?
• How did those first few months together feel? What did you do? Was it hard to sleep at night because you were so excited to have found love?
• What are your favorite things about him or her?
• What are your favorite memories of being with him or her?

Remembering these things helps put your marital problems in their proper context. We all deal with slings and arrows in our relationships - it's when we let them consume our relationships that we run into problems.

Your spouse might not see it that way yet. Restoring a marriage takes time, energy, and commitment that he or she maight not be ready to give. One of the best tools I've found for getting your marriage back on track is a course called Save the Marriage. I've recommended it to many couples, and about 90% of them end up building a marriage that's happier and healthier than ever. (Oh, by the way, I've also used Save the Marriage to get my own marriage through a very rough patch - 10 happy years later, I'm glad I did!)

Getting through the problems marital life brings isn't always easy... but with the right help, it will be very rewarding! Don't put off restoring your marriage - you'll be missing out on one of the best treasures life has to offer.